Does your relationship need help?

Couples Therapy

A thriving and fulfilling relationship brings happiness that enables each other to grow and develop a closer bond with our partner. When the relationship with our loved one becomes strained or distressed, it is painful and we are challenged to the core of our being.

I am passionate about helping couples to rebuild and strengthen their connection with each other, creating a more loving and secure relationship.

Some of the common reasons why people seek couples therapy

  • Unhappiness in their relationship

  • Feeling stuck and disconnected from each other

  • Lack of communication and understanding

  • Not really knowing how each other feels

  • Repeated arguing and fighting

  • Struggles with intimacy and sexual desire

  • Infidelity

  • Loneliness and despondency

  • External factors creating stress ie new job, moving

  • Desire to strengthen the relationship

When difficulties arise and couples struggle in their relationship, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) can help you and your partner work together through issues, building stronger foundations to reconnect with each other with skills for a long lasting relationship. I have found the model to be a reliable and time proven way to help couples have the conversations they need to, in a safe and non-judgmental environment, so that they can find their way back to each other, in a more loving and connected way.

What is Emotionally Focused Therapy?

 

Trained and qualified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) I use this model in my work with couples.

EFT was developed primarily by Dr Sue Johnson to help couples create safe and secure emotional bonds. It has been validated by extensive research and its theoretical grounding in attachment provides a universal solid base across all cultures and backgrounds.

Through the attachment lens of how we interact and relate to each other, we begin to see how these patterns can inform and impact the dynamic between a couple.

It’s not just about learning communication tools, it’s about understanding what’s behind the disconnect; you and your partner’s emotional needs, fears and longings. EFT helps couples transform their negative cycle into a positive one, where it becomes easier to safely express feelings in a way that enables each one to feel heard, loved and understood.

Sometimes it may feel uncomfortable to have these conversations or explore these feelings, as they may be unfamiliar, so I work in a way that facilitates safety and respect for where each one is at in the process.

EFT helps you to create new pathways towards a safe and secure loving relationship, that helps overcome challenges that life may bring.

When there is a deeper emotional and more loving connection between you and your partner, where the bond feels more secure, your hopes and dreams for a happy and meaningful relationship can become real.

Contact

Email
isabella@isabellavanhoye.nz

Mobile
(+64) 027 455 3166
24 hours notice of cancellation is required otherwise full fee is due.
I also speak and practice therapy in fluent French.

“We are never so vulnerable as when we love.”

— Sigmund Freud